[Mb-hair] also it would be nice if people commentingonthe60sactually remem

[richard haase]

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From: "Robin McNamara" <olhippie at tampabay.rr.com>
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Sent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 4:52 PM
Subject: Re: [Mb-hair] also it would be nice if people
commentingonthe60sactually remem


> Right on sweetheart :)
>
> Love forever
> Robin
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> From: "Little Birdie" <lbirdie at hotmail.com>
> To: <mb-hair at islandlists.com>
> Sent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 4:45 PM
> Subject: Re: [Mb-hair] also it would be nice if people commenting
> onthe60sactually remem
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> > Richard,
> >
> > I am afraid I must disagree strongly with your assertion that those who
> > remember the sixties, or have seen the original production are more
> > qualified to speak on these issues. By that logic I, being older than
you
> > and having seen the original production many more times than you, and
> > having even been in it way back when, would be more qualified than you
to
> > have an opinion here. Obviously I do not have more of a right to my
> > opinion than you do - we all are qualified to speak to what makes Hair
> > work for us. That someone doesn't remember the sixties, or only
remembers
> > it slightly, does not make their opinion any more or less valid than
those
> > who were there then. I saw the original production hundreds of times  -
> > eight times a week when I worked as the concession girl. Does that make
my
> > opinion more important? Does my having been in the show in 1973 make it
> > even more so? In my humble opinion it does not.
> >
> > There is another point you make (in a different email, but I speak to it
> > here to conserve bandwidth) that I feel I must comment on. You say:
> >
> >>i am not being hostile and i dont care for how whenever someone dissents
> >>it is interpreted as hostility
> >
> > I truly do not agree with you that people here respond to any
disagreement
> > by interpreting it as hostility. While I completely understand that you
do
> > not feel that your way of dialoging is hostile, I know that this problem
> > comes up with such regularity that I hope you can come to accept that
> > people here do interpret your style of disagreement as hostile. I accept
> > that you do not feel that you were being hostile, but if you are going
to
> > be a member of a group you have to find a way to respect the general
> > values of that group, whether you agree with them or not. So while I
> > accept that you do not feel that the way your disagree with people is
> > hostile I would encourage you to accept that in the general value system
> > of this group your style of writing feels hostile to many of us. There
is
> > no judgment inherent in this - we are not wrong for feeling this, and
you
> > are not wrong for feeling you are not hostile. But if you want to be a
> > member of this group you will need to communicate your thoughts in a way
> > that isn't interpreted as argumentative by the group. In certain
cultures
> > things that we wouldn't think twice about doing are considered very
rude.
> > If you were traveling in a different culture I would hope that you would
> > make an effort to adapt your behavior to the societal rules of that
> > culture. Think of this as a situation like that. Even if you feel that
we
> > are completely wrong to interpret you as hostile I encourage you to
write
> > in a style that opens discussion instead of causing argument.
> >
> > I have made every effort to write about these things in a way that
> > stresses that this is only my opinion. Please note that I understand
that
> > you feel you do nothing wrong in these situations. Please show me (and
> > others) the respect that I have tried to show you in this post. For
> > instance: By all means tell Jim why you feel it is better to update
> > certain portions of Hair, and allow him to tell you why he disagrees.
But
> > when you turn it into a discussion of why your opinion is more valid
than
> > his that tends to be interpreted as hostile, and I ask as the moderator
> > here that you don't post things like that.
> >
> > Nina
> >
> > The Hair Archives
> > http://www.michaelbutler.com/hair
> >
> >
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