[Mb-hair] also it would be nice if people commenting onthe60sactually remem

[richard haase]

but yes nina in a way
youre being older and having experienced more of the 60s
etc
or in those in the original company who were adults
yes i believe you do have an appreciation i dont

and im just dramaturgical issues
it is not blasphemy to argue for the updating of hair

but in any event i am not trying to offend anyone
just trying to help

in the future i shall keep more of my opinions to myself
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Little Birdie" <lbirdie at hotmail.com>
To: <mb-hair at islandlists.com>
Sent: Sunday, September 25, 2005 4:45 PM
Subject: Re: [Mb-hair] also it would be nice if people commenting
onthe60sactually remem


> Richard,
>
> I am afraid I must disagree strongly with your assertion that those who
> remember the sixties, or have seen the original production are more
> qualified to speak on these issues. By that logic I, being older than you
> and having seen the original production many more times than you, and
having
> even been in it way back when, would be more qualified than you to have an
> opinion here. Obviously I do not have more of a right to my opinion than
you
> do - we all are qualified to speak to what makes Hair work for us. That
> someone doesn't remember the sixties, or only remembers it slightly, does
> not make their opinion any more or less valid than those who were there
> then. I saw the original production hundreds of times  - eight times a
week
> when I worked as the concession girl. Does that make my opinion more
> important? Does my having been in the show in 1973 make it even more so?
In
> my humble opinion it does not.
>
> There is another point you make (in a different email, but I speak to it
> here to conserve bandwidth) that I feel I must comment on. You say:
>
> >i am not being hostile and i dont care for how whenever someone dissents
it
> >is interpreted as hostility
>
> I truly do not agree with you that people here respond to any disagreement
> by interpreting it as hostility. While I completely understand that you do
> not feel that your way of dialoging is hostile, I know that this problem
> comes up with such regularity that I hope you can come to accept that
people
> here do interpret your style of disagreement as hostile. I accept that you
> do not feel that you were being hostile, but if you are going to be a
member
> of a group you have to find a way to respect the general values of that
> group, whether you agree with them or not. So while I accept that you do
not
> feel that the way your disagree with people is hostile I would encourage
you
> to accept that in the general value system of this group your style of
> writing feels hostile to many of us. There is no judgment inherent in
this -
> we are not wrong for feeling this, and you are not wrong for feeling you
are
> not hostile. But if you want to be a member of this group you will need to
> communicate your thoughts in a way that isn't interpreted as argumentative
> by the group. In certain cultures things that we wouldn't think twice
about
> doing are considered very rude. If you were traveling in a different
culture
> I would hope that you would make an effort to adapt your behavior to the
> societal rules of that culture. Think of this as a situation like that.
Even
> if you feel that we are completely wrong to interpret you as hostile I
> encourage you to write in a style that opens discussion instead of causing
> argument.
>
> I have made every effort to write about these things in a way that
stresses
> that this is only my opinion. Please note that I understand that you feel
> you do nothing wrong in these situations. Please show me (and others) the
> respect that I have tried to show you in this post. For instance: By all
> means tell Jim why you feel it is better to update certain portions of
Hair,
> and allow him to tell you why he disagrees. But when you turn it into a
> discussion of why your opinion is more valid than his that tends to be
> interpreted as hostile, and I ask as the moderator here that you don't
post
> things like that.
>
> Nina
>
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